Every time we make photo copies from photo copies of an original, the image gets worse, but if that’s all we have, we get used to it. I think as men, we’ve gotten used to our own blurry copy of what it means to be men. You see I think there are at least “Eight Things Men Do To Ruin Their Marriage before They’re Married.”
And for many of us men, we’ve never learned about or seen modeled the skill set that makes us good husbands or future husbands to our wives. We assume that simply because we’ve grown up we’re going to do well in our interpersonal relationships with women. But there are a few key skills that most men don’t possess that if learned would create better relationships.
Skill # 1: don’t stop pursuing and romancing your wife once you’re married. If you continue to win her heart over the years even though its already been given to you, your relationship will improve.
Skill # 2: be relational with your wife. Plan “hang out” time either with or without an agenda. By making time available with her you communicate her priority in your life.
Skill #3: communicate with her, all the time. Share your life with her; give her both the details and how those events make you feel.
Since so many men lack these skills, it wouldn’t take much for you or me to set ourselves apart simply by learning and applying these simple skills.
Chaplain Gregg Peters with the Valor Movement
